The title of a Wall Street Journalarticle on how fertility clinics are offering parents new options, including DNA tests on embryos to predict their baby’s eye color. That way they and pick and choose embryos.
The unknown is parenthood, with different joy accompanying each little being who comes into this world with your DNA but wholly unique characteristics. Love those characteristics, celebrate and rejoice in the knowledge that this particular child is uniquely yours.
In our household, we had the experience of raising a child with significant disabilities. She never walked, talked, or even sat up, and had to be fed via feeding tube for most of her life. Yet this silent human being with such dignity stayed with us for nearly 20 years. Someone asked us when she died from respiratory complications whether we we do it all again. We replied, “In a heartbeat.” Who would want to miss what she brought to our home, our lives, and our other children? Perspective, for one thing. perspective that makes eye color seems like vanity, pride, and, well, just silly.
Who knows why some eyes are blue and some brown — Mendel’s work aside. Who knows why one child has a huge birthmark and others have webbed toes? Part of parenting is learning that you cannot control another life. You cannot engineer a child, en utero or postpartum. More importantly, you should not engineer a child. The Barometer votes a big “no” on the WSJ question.